THE RICH MAN’S TOY!
She was with
him just but for a while, he took care of her and she had a nice time........ or
so it seemed. Endless treats and shopping sprees; all were part of the deal. But
to him she was just a play thing, and they both knew it wasn’t going to last
long, finally the day came and he threw her away like bathwater!
It is
unfortunate that many women today have seen men who are not their husbands as
their ultimate providers. By this, I’m referring to single ladies and unfaithful
wives who date richer men as a business venture. This problem is not inherently
a Nigerian one. As Nigerian girls date ‘aristos’ just for the money, some American
women have become serial wives to billionaires just for the benefits accrued
after fast tracked divorces.
A woman is
capable of achieving everything a man can achieve; no woman is perpetually disadvantaged
just because she is a woman. The difference in the physiological make up
between men and women is hardly a disadvantage to the woman folk to actualise
their aspirations in sports, business, career and other branches of human
existence. Some women have come to believe that the only thing they can amount
to in life is what men have made or can make of them. As a woman you must
believe in yourself, work hard, make impact, make a name and establish an
enduring legacy for yourself. If fate
then makes you marry a rich man, his wealth would just be an addition to complement
your efforts and he won’t be your financial Alpha and Omega. Besides men are
attracted to enterprising and hardworking women, while they have less respect
for exclusively dependent women. This reality does not exclude religiously
inclined and morally upright men. “Look for a lady
who has her mind set and plans made. There is nothing sexier than a woman with
ambition”- Raghib Clitso.
It is
surprising that even some career women have illicit affairs with wealthy men
for financial gain! So what do we say their problem is? Some ladies lead double
dubious lives, this is caused by a warped mindset and skewed orientation. Sex
shouldn’t be given as a commodity like food, clothes and recharge cards! It is
special and should be treated as such and given only to one person who deserves
it (not the sugar daddy). The reckless impunity with which sexual immorality
and perversion have become pervasive is discomfiting. Many men love to get
intimate with women for the fun of it. You must maintain your dignity; remain
chaste for your future or present husband. Even the most sexually perverse man
wants to marry a virgin. Woman, you can live a full, vibrant life without the
direct financial input of any man. You
should use your talents, skills, and endowments (excluding bedroom skills and a
full figure!) to meet your financial and other needs. Ladies should take a cue
from women achievers worldwide; women like –
·
Joyce Banda; award-winning gender activist and
first woman to be the President of Malawi. She cut her salary by 30% and
auctioned the country’s Presidential jet to garner support for economic aid to
her country,
·
Christine Lagarde; the current and first female Managing
Director of the IMF, lawyer, politician. In 2011, Lagarde was ranked the 8th
most powerful woman in the world by Forbes magazine.
·
Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma; the first woman to lead the African
Union, and Minister under three South African Presidents,
·
Hilary Clinton; American politician, diplomat, lawyer,
activist, former Secretary of State, Philanthropist, former first lady and
candidate for Democratic Presidential nomination.
·
Ola Orekunrin; who works in the Nigerian
healthcare industry. At 25, she is a medical doctor, a helicopter pilot and the
Managing Director of West Africa’s first ambulance service, Flying Doctors,
·
Chinamanda Ngozi Adichie; celebrated Nigerian author who won
the Commonwealth writers’ prize for her first book ‘Purple Hibiscus’ and the
Orange Broadband prize for fiction for her second , ‘Half of a Yellow Sun’,
which has been made into a film. She has used her status to call on religious
leaders to quell rising sectarian tensions in Nigeria.
·
And
many more women making impact in their various fields worldwide.
Can someone
please tell me what men have achieved that these women have not achieved? I
maintain that the best way to become a great achiever is to hone your skills
and talents, doing work that you enjoy. Be reminded that when God gave humans
the mandate at creation to subdue, replenish and dominate the earth, He was not
referring to the male gender alone! According to Genesis 1:27-28, He was
talking to the man and the woman.
Let us take
a cue from the Proverbs 31 woman:
10 ¶ Who can find a virtuous
woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband
doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and
not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh
willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants'
ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is
yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field,
and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with
strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her
merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the
spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand
to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the
snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself
coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the
gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and
selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are
her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with
wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the
ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and
call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done
virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful,
and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she
shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of
her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
I agree this
is a long passage, but it is explicit. Judging by the narrative in Proverbs 31,
it looks as though the husband of the Proverbs 31 woman does not have a job!
Lady, you
cannot sleep your way to the top, the best you will be is a sex slave. How many
lecturers will a female student sleep with in order to graduate with a first
class in the university? If love and affection were to be received in exchange
for money, on what basis then would we receive the love of God and how much
would we pay Him? Can you imagine how your sugar daddy speaks about you when he
is with his friends? Besides, the time a young woman spends with a sugar daddy
reduces her prospects of finding and settling with the ideal man who has her
best interests at heart. Don’t be fooled into believing that a man will solve
all your problems. If a woman is not happy with herself, the entry of a man into
her life will not make her happy. Lack of self esteem makes a woman easy prey
for randy men. Fathers must take good care of their daughters because this
helps boost their self confidence, such that treats, love and affection will
not be new to such girls when they leave the protective cover of their parents
to face the rest of the world. You are the architect of your own destiny. Do
not allow pettiness and momentary pleasures becloud your judgement.
Another
reason why you must constantly develop yourself as lady is that even if you
stumble on a good man who decides to marry you, you will destroy him eventually
if you do not have your eyes set on success and intend to get there through
diligence and hard work. While the virtuous woman builds her husband and
encourages him to succeed further, the gold digger is only a conduit pipe that
will drain life out of her lover. Many millionaires have become paupers because
they married greedy wives. Men, beware!
Like a child
outgrows his toys, the rich man around whom you have centred your very
existence will someday get tired of you and discard you, and probably move on
to the next ‘toy’ in sight.
Be wise, you
can make it, you will make it!
Comments
This is Interesting, Constructive, Illustrative, Instructive and above all is a Warning.
Keep it up, this is just the beginning of your greatness.
I look forward to your New Other Articles.
ADIO OLUSHOLA